"Family values" is a term politicains like to bring out a lot these days, especially social conservatives. It's also somewhat vague, and mostly used in reference to "traditional" Christian morals, which are supposed to be in massive decline. Dictionary.com defines family values as "the moral and ethical principles traditionally upheld and transmitted within a family, as honesty, loyalty, industry, and faith. "
Personally, I think this is more or less a con. The central illusion here is the idea that there is a "normal" family which once dominated the country, and that said family was committed to the Judeo-Christian tradition John McCain is so intent on preserving.
However, despite what some people insist on believing, America was never a "Christian nation." It was initially inhabited a multitude of native tribes that had never heard of Jesus Christ. When the U.S.A. was initially founded, its architects were mostly theists and deists, highly influenced by Enlightenment thinking. Thomas Jefferson actually cut up two Bible and stitched together his own version, without the miracles.
The fact is, every family is different. Some parents truly love their children and try to teach them well, and others abuse their children and spouses both physically and psychologically. These things have been happening across the world forever, even in the vaunted golden age of the Fifties.
Furthermore, family values is often a weapon aimed at sexual openess and diversity. It's a disguise for the hate leveled at anyone who has sex oustside of marriage, within their own gender, or in interesting positions, and hate isn't the kind of value I think we need in our families.
There is an astonishing ignorance of why pre-marital and casual sex where ever taboo in the first place - back in the day, there was no way to protect oneself against pregnancy or disease, no condoms or Pill or modern medicine. This wasn't handled by trying to convince teenagers not to get it on though - teenagers simply got married shortly after they reached sexual maturity, especially women. However, we simply live in a different world now.
Family values advocates also see divorce as a manifestation of our moral decline. The fact is, an unhappy marriage is a terrible force in anyone's life. Staying together for the kids doesn't work if the kids have to deal with eighteen years of screaming arguments. The real problem is the obsession with getting married, as though it somehow designates a successful life. I think this is a major factor in people getting married when they simply shouldn't, or to people they shouldn't.
Censorship is also continuously bolstered by the family values argument. Apparently, the best way to raise good kids is to keep the media completely free of violence, sex, or swearing, even though everyone experiences these things simply by going through daily life. How certain words are somehow worse than others, even when they mean the same things, blows my mind. Or how it's worse for a child to witness sexual intercourse - which in reality is necessary to our survival, and fun too - than to see a TV action star shoot someone, which in reality is sad and horrific. One major function of the arts is to help us deal with life, and if art is stripped of its relation to real life, it fails.
All right, I'm losing focus on this rant, and you probably are too. The point is, there are a lot of different people in this country that value different things. I'd like to see some politicians stick up for us existentialists, humanists, bachelors, drug users, fornicators, atheists, and general freaks. We are among you, and our numbers are greater than you think.